Impact Reader: Should I go ahead and date him...He is really a struggling Christian

Hi guys, Remember we came up with this blog to form a community of christian youths who will be there for each other , admonish, advise, pray and uphold each other.

So , someone asked this question, though we have an answer but we really , really do need your contribution now.

Over the years, I have been friends with a coursemate of mine. He is someone girls can classify as nice, caring and compassionate. To add icing to the cake, he is a christian.



Few months back, he asked that we should take our relationship to the next level.Actually, he is  thinking of marriage but I asked him to take it slowly. Reason being that though he is a christian, I will basically refer to him as a church goer.

He said he has given his life to Christ but I doubt it at times. He is struggling with a lot, from drinking to smoking(According to him he has stopped smoking), clubbing and he still keeps in touch with his cult members. Said they are just friends, nothing much.

My question is this, should I go ahead and date him or should I break the relationship. Seeing that the bible said we should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers....Though he is a christian.

I need your response please

Yours,
A confused Christian Girl

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  1. juliegreat222 March 2016 at 02:06

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  2. juliegreat222 March 2016 at 02:14

    Dear Confused Christian girl,

    This is the time to be focused and not confused. The consequence of being confused is likely to have a negative impact on you so, first, be in control of your emotional state.

    2. Matt: 7: 16 says by their fruits you will recognize them. Are grapes gathered from thorn-bushes, or figs from thistles? The guy in question obviously is not bearing fruits that portray him as a Christian by drinking and smoking.

    Prov. 27:17 says as iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another. By keeping in touch with his cult members shows he is keeping the wrong company which will influence many of his decisions and will rub off on you if you decide to still go ahead and date him.

    You really have to come straight with your definition of being nice, caring and compassionate perhaps you are focusing on things that don't really have value.
    I will advice that you look away from him. Read your bible to know who a Christian is and learn how to recognize one.
    Focus on the right things, be the kind of woman that befits the kind of man you are praying to attract. God will lead you aright and you won’t fall into error.

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